Day 6 - Your Kids and Their Friends
“In their developmental years, we made sure the friends and families they spent time with were ones we felt good about and shared our values. We seldom left them alone at a home if parents weren’t there or if an older sibling was babysitting. We also made sure our kids were comfortable with where they were going. We often asked questions after they had been somewhere about what they did and whom they played with. If they were not comfortable around someone or seemed upset to be left somewhere, we took it seriously and investigated; sometimes their concern was normal separation anxiety, but we also discovered situations we felt were unhealthy.”
-Parenting Without Regret: Raising Kids with Purpose, Not Perfection
While we are seeking to make our family our best friends, relationships outside of family have great influence too. Therefore, we want to empower our kids to develop great friendships with people who have the same values. While parents have great impact on friends in the beginning, school, church, and extracurricular activities often provide a venue where friendships will naturally develop with other kids. We do not have to be fearful of this reality as parents. However, we do need to be equipped and ready to be intentional about figuring out what your children are experiencing during their time with these friends. In an effort to help with this, we have included a list of the top ten questions you can ask your kids about their friends.
BONUS: The Top Ten Questions to Ask Your Kids About Their Friends is a checklist you want to have in your home. Whether you have younger or older kids, there is a list for you to use to engage with your child so you can know more about the friends your child spends their time with.